Tapping Technique: Growing Up Method

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EFT Tapping / Emotional Tapping

From Immature and Out-of-Control to Mature, Wise and Free

In this article, I explain the tapping technique I’ve created, called the Growing Up Tapping Technique. This is an EFT guide to making your tapping therapy easy and effective.

If you’d like this EFT tapping method in a printable, eBook format, sign up at the top and I’ll send it to you – free!  This method can take your emotional tapping to the next level.

The Growing Up Method – From Whining to Winning

I call it the Growing Up Method, because it takes you from a petty and childish emotional state to an empowered state of resourcefulness, responsibility and wisdom.

First, as with all EFT, you begin with Tuning In, taking an Assessment and doing the Set Up.  After that, you’re ready for tapping.

Step One: Dumping

When you first tune in to a strong emotional issue…

…you may hear things a two, five, 10 or 15-year old might think and feel.

Dumping is the ideal place to start, when you’re in that immature place.

In other words, for the first phase and rounds of this tapping technique, allow yourself be petty and childish.

Dump, vent, rant, whine, complain, moan, gripe.

Let all the negative out.

Don’t worry about accentuating or increasing the positive –

- you are doing a psychological cleanse.

Up and out with those petty thoughts and emotions.

If you ignore the crummy thoughts and feelings, try to deny or repress them, they will prevent you from fully resolving the issue.  You’ll have an inner conflict, even if you’re not consciously aware of it.

After a few rounds of Dumping, you’ll feel a lot better.

But often not quite good enough to state a totally positive affirmation.  If you do, before all of you is on board, you’ll get a mental rebuttal and a physical objection (in the form of restriction, tightness, contraction, pain).

The objecting parts of your body and mind will sabotage your positive intentions.

With the Growing Up EFT technique, you gradually move to a totally positive space and prevent self-sabotage.

Dumping EFT Affirmations

We’ll continue the example of feeling overwhelmed.  (Go to EFT tapping points for a tapping refresher).  You’re first round of tapping might go like this:

Eyebrow: I’m so overwhelmed.
Side of Eye: I’ve got so much to do.
Under Eye: There’s so much going on in my life.
Under Nose: I can’t do it all.
Chin: It’s too much.
Collarbone: I just can’t handle everything that’s going on.
Under Arm: I feel stressed an anxious.
Top of Head: I’m so overwhelmed.

Tap one or several rounds in the Dumping phase.  As you do this, if you are really tuned into your various thoughts and feelings about your issue, you will feel lighter and more free, as you tap.

Take a deep breath and tune in again.  Take your assessment from 0-10.

When you’re feeling somewhat better, down from where you started (or from an 8, 9 or 10) to somewhere between 4 and 7, move to Dreaming.

Step Two: Dreaming

Dreaming is the way we sneak the change we want by the conscious and unconscious gatekeepers that don’t want us to change.

In this tapping technique, we are introducing the possibility of letting go of the stuck place, without raising so many objections.

In the dreaming phase, we start our EFT affirmations with the words,

“Wouldn’t it be nice if…”
“Wouldn’t it be great if…,” or
“What if…”

In our overwhelm example, this might be your Dreaming tapping round:

Eyebrow: What if I could slow down a little?
Side of Eye: What if I could acknowledge that I don’t have to do everything right now?
Under Eye: What if  could just focus on one task at a time?
Under Nose: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could relax, knowing I can’t get it all done in a day?
Chin: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel more confidence in myself?
Collarbone: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could trust that it will all work out?
Under Arm: What if I could focus on just the most important thing first?
Top of Head: What if I could let go of everything else?

You can do one, or several rounds in this Dreaming phase.

As always, before moving to the next phase, take a deep breath, tune in and get a number to assess where you are now.

Then, when you feel quite positive (at a 3 or lower), move to the final phase, Deciding.

Step Three: Deciding

This will be your final round or two.  Its intent is to bring you to a fully positive and empowered state, with your desired result.

You begin your EFT affirmations in this Deciding part of the process with the phrases,

“I have decided…” and
“I choose…”

To continue our example of tapping on feeling overwhelmed, this final round would go like this:

Eyebrow: I have decided I actually can handle everything I want and need to do.
Side of Eye
: I have decided to focus on just one task at a time.
Under Eye
: I have decided to feel confident about my abilities.
Under Nose
: I choose to relax and do one thing at a time.
: I choose to trust my judgment.
: I choose to know that it will all work out fine.
Under Arm
: I choose to remember I’m good at prioritizing.
Top of Head
: I have decided to feel calm and confident.

If, in any stage of this process, a new disturbing emotion or memory arises, take a little side-trip by returning to Dumping to clear it.  Use the whole Growing Up process on that new emotion or memory.  Then return to the place you left off in the process.

That’s the basics of tapping technique.  Leave your questions and comments below.

Here’s to your peace, abundance and joy with EFT tapping!


Natalie Hill

p.s. This is the method I teach in much greater detail in my EFT Manual.  You can get your printable copy by signing up above.


March 12, 2011 Update on the Tapping Summit.

The 2011 Tapping World Summit is now over.  The audios can no longer be purchased.  The 2012 Tapping World Summit will begin in around a year from now.  I’ll let you know as soon as I hear myself.

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Natalie Hill is a Transformational Coach for women entrepreneurs. She loves empowering women to bust through their blocks so they can be who they were born to be. Contact Natalie at Google+

{ 18 comments… read them below or add one }

Shu December 1, 2013 at 2:54 pm

Thanks Natalie, most people demonstrate this with only one hand tapping only one side of the face/body; Does it matter?


Natalie Hill December 2, 2013 at 9:41 am

Shu, from my personal experience both one-handed and two-handed tapping work equally well. What matters is that you are emotionally involved when you tap.


JE April 22, 2012 at 2:30 pm

Love the growing up sequence. Worked wonders!


Natalie Hill April 22, 2012 at 7:08 pm

So glad to hear you’re applying it and working wonders with your life!


myrette October 20, 2011 at 4:48 pm

Your web site is so useful, and you have given so much– one could spend months just here– i have been doing EFt for 4 years– serious study and i practice and teach, and found so much.
Thank you.


Natalie October 20, 2011 at 6:10 pm

Myrette, that’s a great complement, coming from you – a teacher and practitioner of EFT. I’m honored and grateful.




Sasha October 11, 2011 at 12:03 pm

My belief system which supported “…nothing’s going to work…” was firmly entrenched – until I did the EFT Growing Up sequence. I was deeply moved at the feelings of relief as I went through the method; the honesty in which my body/mind responded; the feelings of calmness that stayed with me for hours. Last night, with the help of my husband, I set up our guest room as my Sanctuary, with my altar and that is where I do my EFT. Upon waking this morning, the dread reappeared – AND THOUGH I just observed this time, knowing that I have something in my toolbox to work with. Thank you so much. I am a healer who never really healed herself first – this is my time Natalie – time to heal.


Jill August 20, 2011 at 3:04 am

This is excellent! I can’t tell you how truly thankful to you I am for what you do. I tried your video course over the past few days, and it’s already had such a huge impact in my life. I feel so much happier and less anxious. I’m suddenly able to appreciate the beauty of everything around me in a way that I’d forgotten it existed. I never dreamed it could be so easy to release past trauma and understand myself better. THANK YOU!


Natalie August 20, 2011 at 6:56 am

Jill, I want to thank YOU. It takes effort to put the tools we’re shown to use and you’ve done that. What you’ve described is the power of EFT.

I wish everyone could experience the shift you’ve had!


Leyden March 4, 2011 at 10:48 am

Wow doing this made me realize what had been holding me back for so long! It was so powerful it almost brought me to tears…Thank you Natalie


Natalie March 4, 2011 at 12:45 pm

Leyden, I’m so happy hearing that!


Susan February 28, 2011 at 6:02 pm

Thanks for sharing this, I am doing exactly what you are teaching but I am so heartbroken I have still got that horrible knot in my stomach.


Natalie March 1, 2011 at 6:34 am

Susan, I suggest two things for you.

1. Tap on the feeling of being heartbroken and that horrible knot in your stomach.

This heartbroken feeling.
I”m heartbroken
This horrible knot in my stomach.
This heartbroken feeling in my stomach.

2. Feel into that heartbroken feeling in your stomach and let it take you back to a memory, maybe in your childhood. Then do EFT on that memory. If it’s a big trauma, be sure to work with a professional to release it.

I do a lot of phone/Skype work with people and would love to give you a 20 minute consult on where to go from here.


Tittin February 16, 2011 at 6:07 pm

Looking for help for my son I came across tapping, tried it, and found that not only was it wonderfully simple; it even worked! Searching further for a good link for him I came across your site which turned out to be right for both of us. The dumping, dreaming and deciding session made a big difference.
Thank you for sharing your EFT technique in such a clear and accessible and inspiring way.


Natalie February 17, 2011 at 12:09 pm

Tittin, you’ve made me smile inside. So nice for my work to be useful to others and appreciated.


mike niagara January 27, 2011 at 8:28 pm

I am really happy i found your web site. My wife would be glad to read the tapping technique.


Brandis November 16, 2010 at 6:44 pm

Two people, my mom and a fellow artist, suggested EFT to me this week. I just tried the above exercise, and I am amazed at how quickly I went from feeling overwhelmed to calm and confident. Thank you.


Natalie November 16, 2010 at 6:47 pm

Brandis, EFT IS amazing, isn’t it! I”m so glad you bumped into it. And I especially thank you for sharing your experience.


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