How to Beat Negative Thinking
Ever wondered: Does positive thinking work? You might ask this because you’ve experienced how difficult it can be to maintain positive thinking minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day.
Do you ever feel frustrated that you don’t seem to remain positive or optimistic or continually confident?
Especially if you’re attempting to do something new, different, out-of-the-box – like being an entrepreneur.
Do you find that you sometimes . . .
- feel passionate and creative about a new idea at first, then lose momentum and interest?
- oscillate from being super confident . . . to feeling inadequate, anxious?
- have a hard time taking action steps toward your goal – day after day?
- find yourself thinking negatively, even though you focus on being positive?
Believe it or not, negative, fearful thinking is human nature.
We survived this far by looking for danger – by always being aware of the awful thing that could be lurking behind that rock.
We’re programmed to be anxious. To expect danger. To focus on the bad stuff that could happen.
This means that if you want to be a positive person . . . if you want to remain confident and motivated and passionate . . . you’ve got to take daily, conscious ACTION to make that happen.
Think of it like brushing your teeth, or like flossing.
You take it for granted that you must do it daily. You would never expect your teeth to remain clean and fresh without brushing – right?
It’s the same with your mind.
Left to its own devices, your mind stays firmly with the survival-based anxious, negative thinking patterns.
It’s up to you to introduce the daily squeeze of fresh-tasting thoughts to keep your mind sparkly.
Here’s what I recommend you do daily to beat negative thinking – which I do myself:
Step 1 – Dumping: Acknowledge what you’re dreading or resisting – face your mental and emotional fears.
Step 2 – Deciding: Decide what you’d like to be thinking and feeling instead and implant those intentions into your mind.
This would work great if you simply made a list of your fears and your intentions daily – morning is best.
But I recommend you add potency to the process by including Meridian Tapping while you read your list.
Here’s a short example of what I mean.
Let’s say you’re an entrepreneur and you would like to teach a workshop.
(This is one of the actions I might recommend to my women entrepreneur clients.)
You’re feeling excited and passionate about it. You love the idea and know it will work great.
But as you begin to type up a flyer and imagine telling others about your idea, you begin to get nervous and doubt yourself.
So begin by listing your fears and doubts – DUMPING.
- I love my idea, but what if nobody else does?
- What if no one attends my workshop?
- What if I do a whole lot of work for nothing?
- What if I make a fool of myself?
- I’m afraid only 1 or 2 people will show up.
- I’m afraid I’ll be too scared to do a good job.
- I’m scared I’ll be disappointed . . . again.
- What if I prove I’m nothing special after all?
That’s it – just write all your worst fears.
Don’t sensor them by trying to be positive.
Hidden in the dark corners of your mind, they have a lot more power than they do out in the open.
Shine the light of awareness on your fears and list them all – even the ones that seem childish.
Then ask yourself what you’d like to be thinking and feeling instead – I call that Deciding.
And it helps to sort of gradually nudge your mind toward the positive by starting these sentences with the words, “What if . . .”
That way your mind is less likely to put up a brick wall of resistance, flat out refusing to take your positive suggestions.
Here’s an example:
- What if I could go ahead with my plan, and see what happens?
- What if people actually do like my idea?
- What if the work I do pays off now, or even in the future?
- What if I feel proud of myself?
- What if 10 or 15 people show up?
- What if I surprise myself with what a good job I do?
- What if it’s a big success?
- What if I prove to myself I can do it?
- What if it all turns out great?
- And what if I learn and grow and take the good from this experience, no matter what?
If you add in EFT – Tapping, simply tap one statement at each tapping point.EFT Tapping Points
If you want to make changes.
And especially if you’re an entrepreneur, I recommend you continually use methods to keep your mind focused on the positive.
And . . . does positive thinking work? You bet it does. But only if you do it!
In the comments below, tell us:
What do you want to create in your business or life right now that you’re most scared or doubtful of?
What is one of your fears or doubts?
What do you DECIDE to think and feel instead of your doubts?
My love and blessings to you and your thinking!