From Thinking Negative Thoughts to Positive

Tap Away a Negative Attitude

When you are thinking negative thoughts, what can you do to change your thinking?  It sometimes works to simply DECIDE to quit – and start thinking positive thoughts.

But often we just don’t have that much control over what thoughts flit across the screen of our mind.

And no matter what we “say” to our mind, back comes that “stinkin’ thinkin.”

I’ve found that there is one method, Emotional Freedom Techniques – EFT – or Tapping, that can quickly change thinking and the emotions behind it.

What is Tapping?

Tapping is method that connects the mind and body, the conscious and unconscious.

Tapping is sometimes described as psychological acupressure, since we activate the the thoughts and emotions while stimulating the body’s energy meridian system, like in acupressure or acupuncture (but we don’t use needles!).

Tapping is a simple …and transformative technique that combines the effectiveness of hypnosis, meditation and acupressure.

You can learn it in a matter of minutes …

…and use it to apply instant relief to stressful situations in your life.

How does Tapping work?

Tapping interrupts and changes the body’s energy patterns that cause a particular thought to be experienced as an upsetting emotion.

Simply said, when you tap these certain stress relief points when you’re feeling bad, your emotions shift – and along with them, your thoughts.

So by tapping, you can change emotions like anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, feeling stressed-out – into peace, calm, optimism, creative problem-solving mode and enthusiasm.

With tapping you can quickly go from thinking negative thoughts to positive.

If you’re new to EFT tapping, you may be wondering how to use EFT to go from negative thinking to positive thinking.  I’ve developed a technique called the Growing Up Method that takes you from thinking negative thoughts – childish, petty, whining thoughts – to thinking mature, wise, intelligent, creative, resourceful and positive thoughts.

This short video interview with Gary Williams of the EFT Tapping Hub gives an overview of how the Growing Up Method works.


I’ve also explained the process in this article on The Growing Up Method.

The hallmark of the Growing Up Method is the three distinctly different focuses on tapping.


We’re growing up here, right?  Dumping is the childish phase.

When you begin to tap on an issue, you typically feel bad and you’re not open to feeling good.  Often, you just feel like complaining and you want to be heard.

So listen! Tap all your complaints, bad feelings, icky emotions.  Don’t censor them or try to make them sound nice or polite.

Acknowledge how bad you feel and verbalize it all in these Dumping rounds.  Tap as many rounds (eyebrow – top of head is one round) as it takes until you feel somewhat better.

These rounds acknowledge the negative.

If you’ve been suppressing your negative thinking, or even denying that you have negative thoughts – this alone can feel great – liberating!

Feel free to be thinking negative thoughts here exclusively.


Now that your emotional state has gotten a little lighter, a little more positive, you are ready to move to the Dreaming phase.

In this phase, it’s as if you’ve matured.  You’re now in that young adult phase of dreaming.  You’re thinking, “What if…” and “Wouldn’t it be nice if…”

To begin this phase, as yourself what it is you would like to be thinking, feeling, doing.

This tapping phase is a mix of negative thinking and positive thinking.

Then we move to the final phase…


In the final tapping phase, you grow up to your wise, mature self.  Here, you’ll be tapping predominantly positive thoughts.

Be sure that you feel quite positive before doing this phase, to avoid thinking negative thoughts as a rebuttal when you’re not quite ready for the positive.

If those rebuttals come up, simply return to Dumping or Dreaming until you are fully ready to embrace the positive.

To get the words for tapping this phase, ask yourself…

What do I choose?

What have I decided?

Doing this final phase of

But now, let’s get a taste for how to use this method to tap…

From Thinking Negative Thoughts to Positive

(Grab the EFT Manual if you need more instruction on how to do EFT tapping – it will arrive in your email inbox in minutes!)

Let’s use the topic of negative thinking for this tapping script.



Set Up (Tap the Karate Chop point)

Even though I have a lot of negative thoughts, I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I often catch myself thinking negative thoughts, I love and approve of all of me.

Even though I feel a little shocked at how often I notice myself thinking negatively, I accept even this in me.


Tapping the Points (see point chart)

Adapt these phrases to fit your own thoughts.

I didn’t realize how often I’m negative.

All these negative thoughts. Ugh!

I thought I was more positive than this!

But it turns out I think a lot of negative thoughts.

I think negative thoughts about others.

I think negative thoughts about me (especially about me!).

I think negative thoughts about my future.

Take a deep breath.


(Tap the Karate Chop point)

Even though I do notice I’m thinking a lot of negative thoughts, what if I could feel safe to change?

Even though I’ve gotten into the negative thinking habit, what if I could start a new, positive thinking habit?

Even though I don’t know HOW to make this change, what if I could simply trust the way to unfold?

Tapping the Points (see point chart)

What if I could hear that negative voice and turn it 180 degrees?

What if I could love and embrace that negative part of me …that is in all of us?

What if I could open my heart to those negative thoughts and feelings and welcome them in?

What if I could ask myself, “What’s the good in that?”

Or, “How could I see that in a positive light?”

What if I could feel safe and secure with things just as they are now?

Wouldn’t it be nice if I could see that silver lining, and always look for the good?


(Tap the Karate Chop point)

Even though there’s still some doubt in me that I can totally let go of negative thinking, I’ve decided that the benefits of more positive thinking is worth it.

Even though I may not be fully ready to let go of this identity of being critical and judgmental, I’m open to another possibility.

Even though part of me is still feeling the urge to be a critical, negative thinker, I chose to trust that the way to thinking more positive thoughts will unfold naturally.


Tapping the Points (see point chart)

I chose to look for the positive.

I’ve decided that I’m worth it!

I know that more joy, love and abundance will come my way when I think more positive thoughts.

I chose to focus on what’s good, what’s working, what I appreciate.

I’ve decided that positive is a good thing.

I can relax, knowing I can still be discriminating.

I chose to trust in my joyful, loving, positive nature!

I chose to feel safe even when I’m positive.


Tapping the points.

I am…















Action Steps!

Taking action helps move temporary learning into permanent knowledge.  So, take some action right now!

In the comments below, let us know…

1.  What have you noticed about the nature of your thinking (I’ve noticed mine is much more negative than I suspected!)?

2.  How did you feel when you used this script?


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Natalie Hill is a Transformational Coach for women entrepreneurs. She loves empowering women to bust through their blocks so they can be who they were born to be. Contact Natalie at Google+

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